“Pessimistic Thoughts”

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 9:03 am #

   Leigh D says:

   Oh no – Is this how you are feeling today? Love the pick.

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 9:07 am #

   Lynn Eileen Chicky LE says:

   Yikes! Ivy, this certainly does look very pessimistic to me! Good choices! LOL Hope you’re not feeling this dark about things today…..

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 9:46 am #

   FaeryGoth Chick says:

   Pretty pick but I hope that everything is ok?

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 9:53 am #

   Sali Jo GemsChica Chick says:

   Yeah oh yeah this is nice. A little on the dark side. Sientes bien, Reina?

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 10:28 am #

   Cuban Queen Crazy Chick says:

   Hi, girls! Thank you all. I’m okay, just having a hard time trying to see the positive in a new opportunity that has presented itself to my husband and I. My husband was approached recently by a very wealthy family about running a new restaurant for them since they don’t know the ins and outs of the restaurant business like my husband does. It’s a great opportunity financially, but it means that he will be spending many long hours there building up the business, which in turn means that I will be spending many dinners alone. I’m trying to be optimistic and focus on the positive, but it’s very difficult for me right now. We are so used to having dinner together and going to bed together. That is all going to change very soon and I know it’s very co-dependent of me, but I’m not sure how I’m going to handle it.

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 10:34 am #

   Leigh D says:

   Oh boy do I hear you on this one. My husband is in the restaurant business and when we first met he also was involved in the running of a new restaurant for some “wealthy” investors. It was very hard for me to learn how to deal with the many nights alone but I had to remind myself that he has always supported me in my goals and even came with me across the state when I decided to get my master’s degree. He is still in the restaurant biz and the hours are still long but this is where he thrives. I still don’t “like” it but it is what it is – and we just make a conscious effort to have date night and do other things when he has time off. My thoughts are with you

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 10:43 am #

   Cuban Queen Crazy Chick says:

   Thank you, Leigh. It’s good to hear from someone who can truly relate. The restaurant business is my husband’s passion so I don’t want to take that away from him, but at the same time I know it’s going to be difficult for me to spend nights alone. Fortunately he is very understanding and spends all of his free time with the family. There’s a good probability of him becoming part owner of this new restaurant, too, which would free up his schedule somewhat. Glad to hear your husband is supportive of you as well. That’s how it should be. My husband also says that he is more than willing to support any of my future endeavors, such as completing my education and maybe opening up a bead shop.

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 11:42 am #

   Lynn Eileen Chicky LE says:

   Ivy, while I can’t relate to the restaurant aspect of your situation, I do understand what it’s like to have a lot of ups and downs going on in your life and to have things not be the way you want them to be at the moment. (See Harriet’s pick “For Chicky LE — Jump For Joy” — if you need an explanation.) I know you and Roberto have a wonderful, close, loving relationship that will survive this, probably bringing you even closer together. You are lucky to have each other to support one another’s dreams and goals!

   Just remember, Ivy — This, too, shall pass!

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   On Aug 22, 2009 at 11:44 am #

   Lynn Eileen Chicky LE says:

   BTW, congrats to Roberto on his new opportunity!!!

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 11:45 am #

    Lynn Eileen Chicky LE says:

    Don’t ever forget, Ivy — the Chicks are here for you whenever you need us — day or night!

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 12:07 pm #

    Cuban Queen Crazy Chick says:

    Thanks very much, Lynn. It’s great to be able to come here and talk to you chicks, and let out a little creativity while I’m at it!

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 12:09 pm #

    Deb D Grammy Chick says:

    I can sympathize with your situation, although mine was in reverse. I managed a tavern many years ago, and was required to work long hours. My husband was wonderfully supportive, but I missed the time with my family. The people I worked for decided to close the business, so things got back to normal for a while. A short time later, my husband took a job where he worked a split shift…several hours in the afternoon, and several hours in the middle of the night. That was really brutal! Two years ago, he had two strokes, and is now on SS Disability, wo it’s been another huge adjustment.
    I’ve only been a chick for a short time, but it didn’t take long to see that the Chicks are here for each other, and I’m proud to be one of them.
    BTW, this is a wonderful pick!

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 12:10 pm #

    Deb D Grammy Chick says:

    OOOPS! My fingers made a boo boo…that “wo” should have been “so”!

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 12:19 pm #

    Southern Chick says:

    Hi Ivy. I know about missing husbands, especially with little ones that you’ll be handling alone. My kids only saw dad on weekends for the first 5 years of their lives. It was very very hard, but we made it. Hopes and prayers are coming your way from me. Great pick too.

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 12:24 pm #

    Valentine Chick says:

    Wow Ivy! Don’t you still have your own restaurant too? Sounds like a lot of hours and prayers needed. Everything will work out ok. Sounds like you could be requesting a new bead order to lessen the stress, maybe?!?

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    On Aug 22, 2009 at 12:31 pm #

    K H says:

    I know what it is like to have hubby working away from home. However, on the bright side of things – his good job will give you more time and money for beading. In the alternative – could you be one of his assistants (office manager, reservation maker, door greeter) Even if it were a part-time job it would seem like a joint venture.

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 10:43 am #

    Cuban Queen Crazy Chick says:

    Hi, everyone. Thanks so much for your kind comments and advice. Yes, I think I see another bead order in the very near future to lessen the stress. LOL

    We did discuss me working at the restaurant just like I did at our old place so that’s a possibility, plus my husband is thinking of building a little separate room right in the restaurant complete with couches, a crib, toys, and a TV so the kids can be right there with us, too, a sort of “baby lounge”. LOL But that would only be on the weekends, of course, as the kids go to school. I’m sure we will figure out a good solution and in the mean time I have you chicks and fresh picking to keep my mind occupied!

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 10:52 am #

    KPJEWELS says:

    Ivy, I’m sure you will find a suitable solution. It may just take time to fall into place. BTW, we have a saying here “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. I used to work the ‘graveyard shift’, mainly to save the cost of sitters which I couldn’t afford at the time, so I know where you’re at. Keep your chin up, things will work out for you in due time. Take things one step at a time.

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 11:15 am #

    Happy Chick aka Harriet says:

    Nicely dark pick! I like the arrangement and colors you used.

    I am so sorry things are out of whack for now, and I really sympathise about the long, late hours apart from your sweety.

    Are you going to keep running your own restaurant too? That sounds like a huge work load.
    My Thoughts and prayers are heading your way.

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 11:19 am #

    Happy Chick aka Harriet says:

    Grammy Chick, we are glad you came to be a Chick too! And we are here for you too, anytime you want to reach out. We love beading, and picking, and visiting, and caring about each other. May sound weird, but it works.

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 11:24 am #

    Jeannes Gems - Gem Chick says:

    Ivy – I have been married 28 years – I waitressed nights for the first 10 years and truly believe that was the key to our longevity! of course that was without children.
    after that my husband worked seasonal with his pool business. I knew that I would rarely see him from April through Labor Day. Then it was with child and my own full time teaching job and doing his books. But like Lynn said – “This too shall pass” And we will all be here for you!

    btw – this is a fabulous pick1 love the dark colors!

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 11:50 am #

    Little Round Chick says:

    The thoughts may be pessimistic, Ivy, but the pick has some wonderful colors in it. Like many of you I can relate to the hours spent alone. The first 16 years Richard and I were married he was active duty in the Navy. The first 10 years of that was during the Viet Nam mess and he was gone on 6 month deployments about every 12 to 18 months. The best solution for me turned out to spending as much time with him as possible when he was home and when he was gone spending time with friends and being actively involved in a hobby which was at that time The Cat Fancy. I had show cats and was very involved with that until we went to the Philippines. Try not to dwell on today’s unhappiness. As Lynn said, this too shall pass. Just remember you have friends and family who are there for you and you have the Chickie Support System any time you need it. We are strong women and are capable of doing what ever is needed of us.

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 11:59 am #

    CAS says:

    Ivy, give my congratulations to Roberto. Over the years I’ve learned the importance of doing something that you love. Roberto is lucky to have this passion and this gift that this “wealthy family” has recognized in him. Despite the long hours, he’ll be doing something that makes him happy, something that gives him pride and joy to do. And that happiness, pride and joy will enrich the whole family in the big scheme of things. Think of how much more the times together will mean to you both, and the kids too. Maybe you and the kids could make a “date night” once a week to go and have dinner at the restaurant with “Dad”?

    Of course you have all my good positive thoughts for only good things! Btw, thank you everyone for all the good thoughts sent to me, I GOT A JOB! Part-time (a start) at our local Pier 1 store. I start Monday the 24th. Hugs, hugs, hugs!

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 12:45 pm #

    Cuban Queen Crazy Chick says:

    Hey, congrats, CAS!!! That’s great! Working at Pier 1 you’ll be surrounded by beautiful things and lots of COLOR! And you’ll be earning extra bead money!

    Thank you so much everyone for sharing your personal stories. Looking at it now, my situation could be much worse, like having my husband be in the army. (LRC, that must’ve been rough!!) I don’t know how you army wives out there do it!! Much respect! Today I am feeling much less pessimistic, partly thanks to you lovely ladies. Thank you.

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 12:46 pm #

    Cuban Queen Crazy Chick says:

    Hmm, guess that middle guy there didn’t feel like showing his “face”! lol

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    On Aug 23, 2009 at 12:48 pm #

    Happy Chick aka Harriet says:

    Hang in there, Ivy.

    Congratulations to CAS. It should be a fun job, with lots of pretty things all around you.

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    On Apr 02, 2010 at 12:40 pm #

    M Coble says:

    Hi Ladies,
    I too understand the feelings many of you have felt or are feeling now. I used to do bead work when I was around 12-14 years old and have recently decided to get back into it. I raised 4 children and now have 3 beautiful grandchildren, all age 2, born within 5 months of each other. They are truly a joy to me. Especially now that my marriage seems to be crumbling after 24yrs….
    Hope to come up with some designs of my own soon…hang in there all.