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“Advice on Mourning Jewelry?”


Description from Dill: Ladies, I need your thoughts and advice! I need to make multiple pieces of "mourning jewelry" (for lack of a better term) for a friend. I really can't decide what to do. The things I've thought of so far:

1) All black, the most obvious choice
2) Something with calla lilies, since one of the symbolisms of calla lilies is death
3) Something with poppies for the same reason as #2
4) I also thought about the Rustic Charms pendant that's a heart with the words "Always in my heart" (I think it's currently out of stock).

But the person would like it to be obvious, at least for some of the pieces, that they're commemorating someone. She doesn't want someone to see the black pieces and think "Oh, how classy!" She wants them to think, "Oh, that person lost someone she cares about." But she also *does want* the pieces to be classy, and the commemoration to be subtle, discreet. So nothing huge with a "rest in peace, (name)." I can't seem to figure it out. Putting a name or initials would seem to suggest it's the person with whom she's in love, rather than her brother.

Any suggestions or advice would be most welcome!!


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  1. deleted
    deleted says:

    For a personal, one-of-a kind piece you could use photos and other mementos in the Nunn Design bezels that are filled with resin. They have some really nice ideas on their website. You could also add some charms related to the person’s hobbies or occupation.

  2. CAS
    CAS says:

    First off, I’m very sorry for your friend’s loss. Secondly, I agree with Dropalotta Beads that a photo of her brother would be nice. During the Victorian era, the height of “mourning” jewelry fashions, pieces often contained a photo, lock of hair or some other memento of the deceased. And lastly, I don’t know what your friend’s religious beliefs are, but adding a cross, star of David, or buddhist symbol would also be appropriate for “mourning” jewelry.

    You could also use any jet colored beads (popular in Victorian “mourning” jewelry), Vintaj’s arte metal pieces, black wire lace, and black ribbon in your designs. Green Girl has some nice crosses … oohh … how about a tree of life …

  3. puppychick  labratbecky
    puppychick labratbecky says:

    I would also make a few chains of linked wire wrapped blacks from the smaller Czech glass beads. They have different finishes. Some are iridescent, some matte,etc. to go with different color clothing but still remaining respectfully mournful. You could add a few larger links and use them as the base for hooking on different “charms” or pendants from the suggestions above. attach your pendants to a ring/spring clasp to be hooked on or removed as the wearer wishes.

  4. Elis Mom
    Elis Mom says:

    I am also sorry for your friend’s loss. I agree with DB and CAS regarding a photo charm….but I am also working on my own commemoration piece, and it’s going to be full of color, and charms of all the little things that remind me of the one I lost….

    Perhaps your friend’s jewelry could be made using her brother’s favorite colors, adding charms of the things he loved and the things that remind your friend of him. Things that have a special meaning.

    Ask to see some photos of her brother, find out what he was like, what she loved about him, what makes her think of him, and what makes her smile at his memory. That’s what you should include in her special piece of jewelry.

  5. N Taylor
    N Taylor says:

    Sorry for friend’s loss. If your friend wants something subtle you can always add the person’s birthstone as a tribute.

  6. Chicky Zee aka Alice
    Chicky Zee aka Alice says:

    Sorry for your friend’s loss.Ditto to all above!

  7. deleted
    deleted says:

    A jeweler can stamp or engrave dates on the back of a pendant, or you could use one of the round or square blanks that LB has, and then you can use a black oxide patina to make the lettering stand out more.

  8. Beadzilla aka Wanda
    Beadzilla aka Wanda says:

    So sorry to hear of your friends loss. I like the idea of the picture and resin, and I also like your poppy idea. That Golem pendant would look great strung with chain and some black wire wrapped beads, with a couple of red ones too. I also think a charm bracelet would be nice with some wire wrapped beads, and charms that relate to her brother.

  9. Dill
    Dill says:

    Oh my goodness, you all, thank you SO much for these ideas!! Thanks also for your kind words of sympathy. She is having a really hard time, because his death was unexpected, and he had only just graduated from college.

    DB, that’s a great idea. I had thought of a locket, but not a bezel with resin, and I like that idea so much more – there’s so much more you can do with it. And I am definitely going to use your stamping idea. I had thought of using letter beads and didn’t like that idea – seemed too childish – but the stamping is a great idea.

    CAS, thanks for the info about Victorian mourning jewelry – I didn’t know that, and it will be nice to share that info with my friend. Wirelace is a great idea – I’ll definitely do one with that. I also really like the tree of life idea – I think I’ll include that on the piece that EM suggests as a celebration of his life.

    Becky, I really like the idea of having at least one of the pieces be a “base” necklace with different things she can add or remove.

    EM, I think the idea of having one of the pieces focus on a celebration of his life is a fantastic idea. Maybe I’ll have that necklace be the one with removable pieces, because there’s so much about his life to celebrate. I’m sorry for your loss, too.

    N, the birthstone idea is great. She does want most of the pieces to be subtle, and I really like the idea of mostly black with some birthstones in the design. Amethyst for him, so that will be nice.

    Wanda, I’m glad you think the Golem poppy pendant is appropriate, because I was really leaning toward using it for one of the pieces. There’s something so bittersweet about the beautiful flower and its sad meaning, which is a good representation of his beautiful life and tragic death. I had at first decided to try the Humblebeads poppy piece, which I thought looked amazing, but when I received it, much to my dismay, it was neon pink, rather than the nice red shade in the photo!!

    Thanks again so much to you all! I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts!

  10. Asia
    Asia says:

    Ditto to what everyone said, there is nothing better then a our LB group :D

  11. Asia
    Asia says:

    BTW, if you go to the Golem Studio on line shop they have the poppy beads and pendant in many more colors :D

  12. Chicky Red-haired Grammy
    Chicky Red-haired Grammy says:

    I have no additional advice … just wanted to add my condolences for your friend. With all the excellent suggestions above, I am sure your friend will treasure your creation. If you and she are willing to share it, might you post it in the design gallery, please?

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    Annie Z says:

    Since you mention that it’s to honor her brother, you might consider using links, findings or colors that were special to him alone or to the two of them.

  14. Dill
    Dill says:

    Thanks for the additional helpful comments, Asia and Anne!

    CRG – Thanks very much for your words of condolence. I’m sure she will feel it would be a way of honouring her brother to share the result, so I will definitely do that.

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